The biggest lesson I learned this year is to not force anything: conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for, whatever flows, flows, what crashes, crashes. It is what it is.

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The biggest lesson I learned this year is to not force anything: conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for, whatever flows, flows, what crashes, crashes. It is what it is.

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The biggest lesson I learned this year is to not force anything: conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for, whatever flows, flows, what crashes, crashes. It is what it is.

As we grow and get wiser, few things in life continue to get more and clearer. One of the first things that we understand and realize as we age is that relationships cannot be forced. You cannot make someone love you or stay with you in a relationship if the other person is not equally in love with you or committed at the same level as you. If there is no balance in a relationship, it would sooner or later edge out and fall. It is this principle that we can apply to many different aspects of life, whether it is having a conversation with someone, building friendships, getting attention, or love.

You cannot make someone talk to you if the other person refuses to answer, and the same is the case with building friendship, seeking attention, or love. You cannot force someone to react in just the way you want because we all are different, and it is why; we don’t go along well with everyone. And, the people we go along well with become our friends for life. No doubt, there are differences even in the strongest of relationships, but even amongst those differences lies the love and commitment needed to keep the relationship cemented.

Read: Happiness is Not About Getting All You Want; It Is About Enjoying All You Have.

If you are in a relationship where your partner regularly threatens to leave you or has cheated you in the past, it is a clear sign of commitment issues. The level of commitment, love, and respect is completely missing, and what would you do by forcing such a person to be in a relationship with you? Such relationships don’t last, and even if it continues to drag on, will you be happy? The fear and insecurity would continue to haunt you as long as you are in such a broken relationship. It is just not worth it to fight for a relationship that was never meant to be. If you force something to happen, it might happen, but there would be after-effects that would bite you back and leave you in immense pain in the future.

relationships can't be forced

Go with the flow

Learn to go with the flow and accept things the way they are. Not everyone would like you, and you won’t vibe with everyone as well. Stay with people who like you and respect the people who don’t. Do not bother yourself with questions like why doesn’t someone like you or what did you do wrong to get disliked, and so on. Some questions don’t always have an answer, and even if there are, what difference would it make if you know it? Don’t try to change the natural settings to your liking always and accept the reality as it is without trying to interfere with anything. Love the people who love you, and ignore the people who don’t. It is as simple as that.

Read: Be Happy in Front of People Who Don’t Like You – It Kills Them.

What is yours will be yours

The relationships and people who love and care for you would be around even during times when you woo them away. It is because they care and would stick by you through thick and thin. You don’t have to work hard or force things where there is love because they understand their importance in your life without you uttering a word. If someone leaves you – whether it is friendship or a relationship, let them go. Time changes people, and change is the only thing that’s constant in the universe. Learn to accept these changes and move on rather than trying to manipulate the natural process to align with your preference, because it would never happen. When you accept the changes with open hearts, it gives you the strength to move on and never look back.

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