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You need to hang out with people who fit your future, not your history.

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You need to hang out with people who fit your future, not your history.


One thing that is constant in life is change. When it comes to people around you, there will be a continual change in the people you are surrounded by in different phases of life. When you are in school, you’ll have different sets of people and friends around you, and the same is the case when you go to college, for higher education, and do a job or business. 

While there would be a few friends who would stick by you all your life, many others would not be a part of your life anymore. The company you keep plays a crucial role in your life, and you must have a good company because it influences your thoughts, character, attitude, and perspective, in ways more than you can imagine.

Keep a close watch

The thoughts, talks, character, attitude, body language, and other aspects of the personality of people around you influences you and rubs off on you, slowly but surely. It doesn’t change you drastically but continues to make minor changes as time passes by. It would help if you kept a close watch on people who are always there by you, supports you, pushes you to give your best and dream big, and look out for those are send out negative vibes, discourages you, and tries to find faults in things you do continually.

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There will be people around you, including people who are very close to you, who might jealous or envy of you. If you can’t completely delete them from your life, keep a safe distance, and don’t involve them in your plans – present or the future.

Don’t be afraid to say “NO.”

There would be people who would try to connect you with and forcibly try to be a part of your life. Be selective and send out a loud and clear message that you do not want to hang out with them. Sometimes, you have to say “NO,” because some people can’t take no for an answer and would continue to cling on you. It is your life, and it is your choice as to who you want to be with, hang out with, and be in a relationship with.

You can’t please everybody

It is impossible to keep everyone happy, and just like you can’t like everybody, not everyone will like you too. Make sure that you keep your social circle limited to people who are real friends, and who have stood the test of time, and the ones who mean you well. You can’t please everybody and get rid of that habit of trying to please everybody.

People who love you would be with you regardless of your status, financial position, and the phase of life you might be going through. Don’t try to find validation of your existence and your life from anyone else. It is dangerous for your mental and emotional state of mind and can make you suffer for irrelevant things.

Don’t be afraid of change

Many people will come and go as you move in life, and some people who you love and are fond of also may leave your side in the journey of life. Don’t be afraid of such changes. It is part and parcel of life. Accept such changes gracefully. You cannot force anyone to be a part of your life if they don’t want to. Your social circle will continue to shrink as you get older and know that it is okay.

Do not compare your life and your social circle with others. Be grateful for what you have and the people you have in your life who love you, irrespective of how small that count may be. Count your blessings. You may not have what they have, but there is always something that you have that they don’t. Trust the process and find happiness in smaller things in life. You don’t always need miracles to be happy.

Keep moving ahead in your life, no matter how slowly. Let go of people who are negative and continues to pull you down because they are afraid that you might achieve what you have set out to achieve. Think about your future and have a vision in your mind. Do everything it takes to make your vision a reality, and while you must respect the relationships you have at present, it is okay to cut off ties from toxic people and relationships that don’t serve your purpose and goals in life.

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